When someone is cruel to us, or treats us unjustly, it is normal to feel bad. However, these feelings, if left unchecked, can have very long-term debilitating effects on our bodies, minds, and affairs.
Grievances have a habit of manifesting themselves as all sorts of problems, including financial and health problems.
Frequently, when we have problems that we can’t seem to solve, it has less to do with the circumstances of the problems themselves than we might recognize. These problems are, in fact, manifestations of suppressed hostility, grief and guilt brought on by our grievances.
If there are problems in your life that you can’t seem to solve, no matter what you do, chances are you are holding some hidden grievances. Ask yourself, “Whom must I forgive in order to solve this problem?” Keep asking, and your deep mind will make known the culprit.
Forgiveness is simple. Start by calling on some sense of a higher power (God, Goddess, Spirit, etc), and ask that they remove the grievance for you. Be clear to yourself and to this power that you no longer want to keep this grievance. Say, out loud if possible, "I, Forgive ________ and I sincerely wish them all the blessings of life." Say this sentence seven times.
You need not repeat this process on the same grievance. If you notice lingering thoughts of resentment popping up, simply remind yourself immediately, “I have already forgiven __________. I set them free into the arms of the Infinite.”
Remember, you don’t have to be around someone after you have forgiven them, unless you want to. You aren't condoning or empowering someone's negative behavior when you forgive them. Rather, you are freeing yourself from toxic resentments.
Forgiveness is something that we do as an act of self care.
This practice can have a profound healing on each and every area of your life.
Here is a talk on the practical value of forgiveness: