Hi Ariel,
Really appreciated the lecture this week, but I had a q and I am not comfortable commenting on YT in a public forum...so here I am! I love the sentiment around 'focusing on yourself' and I do try to do that, however, I've found that in professional situations I need to do a lot of 'managing my reputation' and 'self brand'- there are some younger folks in my organization that feel competitive with me & never miss an opportunity to critique my performance. Sometimes this feedback is warranted but more often than not, it is due to the fact that my success is causing them insecurity (i have been promoted and they have been at the company longer, etc). I do my best to try to give credit where it is due and bring folks along, but I'm getting feedback that I "dont value others opinions"- which is code in the corporate world for I made a decision and someone didnt like it (even though it was the correct one to make). I get very upset that due to others immaturity, that negatively impacts my ability to ultimately provide for my family (there is a promotion on the horizon and I am worried I wont get it due to these individuals and their feedback). How should I handle this situation? I totally agree that what others think of me is none of my business (and at the end of the day, I really dont care what these individuals think of me), but I need to care because it impacts my professional success. I am going to do some work on the situation (and I already have done some, but clearly more needs to be done, example; I try to schedule meetings w this person on Tuesdays & call upon Mars, etc). Should I do a spell of invisibility to them so they stop focusing on me? Should I bless them? Would you recommend something else? I do need to prove to my bosses that I can handle more leadership & responsibility and these situations are really proving to be a blocker for me. And sorry to write a novel....but I did do a spell for the promotion and Im wondering if this is coming up bc its on the way out? Perhaps I didnt focus on 'in an easy & fun way' enough? My spell really focused on the promotion but also my deep need for respect from my peers.
Would appreciate your advice. BB. <3
Yes, that can be a challenge can't it? Have you actually talked to your bosses directly about this? Perhaps what these others are saying/thinking about you don't carry as much weight as you think... BB
Also used your "stop monologuing, stop dialoguing" as I've been going round and round in my head on this issue from your lecture on the Magic of Rehearsing....so thank you!