A Spiritual Problem-Solving Process to Overcome Any Challenge

Today, I want to share a powerful spiritual problem-solving process with you. While I’ve included variations of this process in many of my courses, I thought it would be helpful to present it as a standalone exercise. This process has worked wonders for so many people, and I’m confident it can do the same for you—if you give it a fair try.

You can use this process anytime, regardless of external circumstances. All you need is a pen or pencil and a few sheets of paper. While you can use an electronic device, I find that writing things out by hand often yields the best results. Let’s dive in.

The Spiritual Problem-Solving Process

Step 1: Name the Problem

Take a sheet of paper and write the name of the problem you’re trying to address at the top. It could be anything—an unpaid bill, a physical symptom, a conflict with a friend or partner, or even a car issue.

Step 2: Explore the Root Cause

Beneath the problem’s name, write the sentence: “The reason I have this problem is…”

Without overthinking or editing, finish the sentence by writing your first thought, even if it seems silly or nonsensical. Continue this process until the page is filled with thoughts that complete the sentence, "The reason I have this problem is..." Whatever it is, just write it down. There are no "wrong" thoughts. Don't ignore any thought, no matter how silly, insignificant or incorrect it seems. If it comes up, write it down. For example:

• I'm an idiot

• Because so-and-so did it to me

• Because I wasn't raised right

• I don't have enough education

  
  

Once you hit the bottom of the page, or you keep repeating the same thoughts, you're finished.

Step 3: Identify the “White Elephants”

On a new sheet of paper, write the phrase: “My white elephants surrounding this situation are…”

White elephants represent the so-called “gifts” or hidden benefits that your problem might be giving you. For example:

• “I don't have to go places because I can’t afford anything.”

• “I get to avoid tasks because I’m sick.”

• "I get to win and be right."

• "I get to have people give me sympathy."

Write down anything that comes to mind, even if it feels made up or far-fetched. The goal is to bring subconscious thoughts to the surface. Write as many as you can think of until you are either repeating the same thoughts repeatedly or you have reached the bottom of the page.

Step 4: Examine Fears of Letting Go

On a third sheet of paper, write the sentence: “My fear of giving up this situation is…”

Even if you think you’re not afraid of letting go, explore this question. Repeat the sentence and write down whatever comes up, without editing. For example:

• “I’m afraid I won’t know how to handle success.”

• “I’m afraid of the unknown.”

• “I’m afraid things might get worse.”

  
  

This step helps uncover hidden fears that may be keeping you stuck in the problem.

Step 5: Confront Negative Self-Beliefs

On a fourth sheet of paper, write: “My most negative thought about myself is…” or “The thing I don’t like most about myself is…”

Let yourself be honest and unfiltered. Write down thoughts like:

• “I’m not good enough.”

• “I’m not smart enough.”

• “I hurt people.”

• "I'm unwanted."

This step isn’t about making these thoughts more real—it’s about bringing them to light so they can be addressed.

Step 6: Prioritize and Flip the Thoughts

Once you've written down your thoughts, follow these steps:

Identify the most triggering thoughts. Go through your notes and say each out loud. Circle the thoughts that cause emotional and/or physical responses. Give each one a score from 1 to 10 based on its impact, and look for any common themes or patterns.

Narrow them down. Select three to seven of the most powerful thoughts.

Flip them. For every negative thought, write a "flip," or reframe. Here are a few examples:

Negative: “I hate myself.”

Flip: “I love and accept myself.”

Negative: “You are nothing.”

Flip: “I am something. I am a divine expression of infinite love and creativity.”

Negative: "Nobody likes me."

Flip: "I am likable and lovable."

Negative: "I hurt people."

Flip: "I am a force for good in this world."

Step 7: Work with the New Thoughts

Take your reframed thoughts and actively work with them, systematically at least once per day.. Here are a few ways to integrate them into your life; you can come up with many more. Use just one or two methods:

• Write each affirmation in your best handwriting or printing 10 times a day.

• Chant them silently as you fall asleep.

• Record them and listen to them as affirmations.

• Each morning, visualize scenes that prove these affirmations to be true.

• Carve them into candles or create talismans to symbolize them. Gaze at the candle and/or talisman as you think of them.

• Repeat one or more of them silently in your mind for 3 to 5 minutes per day as a silent mantra.

  
  

If you can identify a single "bottom line" thought that encompasses everything, that’s ideal. For example, I know someone whose core idea is, "I am here to bless the world." Regardless of any negative thoughts that arise, the thought "I am here to bless the world" dissolves them. It may take some time to discover what your powerful "bottom line" thought is, but once you do, it becomes a potent mental tool capable of resolving any problem. In the mean time, just use the flips and benefit from the results you get!

Step 8: Observe the Changes

You will begin to notice small changes in your situation, sometimes immediately, as you start to work with these new ideas. These small changes serve to strengthen your faith and inspire you to continue. Work with these new thoughts every day, systematically, until you get a sense of peace and certainty about the situation you are working on. Once you get that sense of peace, it's time to stop the process and completely forget the issue altogether. 

Continue Using the Spiritual Problem-Solving Process

Working on healing your mind so you can heal your life is one of the most effective things you will ever do. This works for ANYTHING you want to heal in your life. Big things, small things, mental things, physical things, financial things, relationship things. You name it, healing your mind will help you improve your situation.

Sometimes life can become overwhelming with thoughts and emotions that influence our current reality. Toxic thinking can become a cycle that leaves us feeling trapped. But there are ways to heal from within so that everything around us can also heal and change.

When there seems to be no other answer or solution that we can find on the outside, working on healing your mind is usually the missing puzzle piece we’ve been searching for. It pushes us to raise our vibration by allowing us to heal, build strength and awareness, and transform what life throws our way, as well as what we attract and are attracted to. Healing your mind and digging deep within yourself can work wonders for any problem.

Give it a shot! See what happens when you work on healing your mind, you might just like what you discover.

Thanks for reading!

🖤 BLESSED BE!